How Men Really Feel...

No man wants to be separated from his children.

Every night, the Miami Heat's Dwyane Wade goes home to his two sons. He was awarded sole "care, custody and control" on March 11th after a year-long court battle with his ex-wife Siohvaughn Wade.

Following their recent divorce, Dwyane claimed that Siohvaughn wasn't allowing him to see their two sons, ages eight and three, and the court agreed with him. Her actions in this case alienating the sons from their father were so heinous that a court had to recognize it and do something about it. This ruling was rare.

Siohvaughn "has embarked on an unstoppable and relentless pattern of conduct for over two years to alienate the children from their father, and lacks either the ability or the willingness to facilitate, let alone encourage, a close and continuing relationship between them," said the court's papers.

The problem is, Siohvaughn is far from the only woman to pull the stunt called Parental Alienation. PA is a very common tactic used by women like Siohvaughn who have no problems manipulating, distorting or trying to dissolve a father's bond with his child.

In typical cases of PA, visitation after visitation is denied repeatedly and both parents are consistently in and out of court. In the most extreme cases, one day the father wakes up to learn his child has been relocated to another state or country without approval or notification. This is a form of kidnapping. But the crime rarely goes punished.

Several years can go by before the child is found and at that point, the child will have grown up not knowing or being able to bond with the father. For some reason people don't think this hurts men. 

But no man in their right mind wants to be separated from his children.

I know this first-hand. For two and a half years, I was separated from my two daughters and son, then ages five, three and two. During that time, there were no two hours within a given day when I didn't feel the pangs of loneliness in my heart caused from not being able to take part in my children’s daily lives. I had anxiety attacks. I cried thinking about how my daughters were doing, how they were growing and what they were experiencing. But more importantly, what I was missing in their little lives.